A Year Past a Year Promised

This past year has been anything but routine. The promise I claimed for myself on my birthday last year was to actually connect with these people with whom I share a deep bonding, only imagining how that would finally play itself out. .

During the summer, grandson Wilder came for an extended visit. Justin, Caroline's son - also my grandson - was there as well. The two of them really had an opportunity to bond.  I realized while he was there, how important real connections are to me.

In September, I travelled to Oklahoma and spent a week with Randy, Stephanie, and Chris. After a weekend at an international horse show where Chris placed in all categories entered, we drove to their home and I spent the week following Chris and Stephanie as they went through their daily routines. I had only been there to visit once before when Chris was still an infant. I never did get to spend much time with Chris while I was there, but at least I did get a feel for being connected in the real to my family.

A day at Conna wilkinson's with Jan Sanders and Pat Webb as we journeyed through Jan's workshop to find our heart's song was also a very significant event of the year of really connecting as colleagues.

In December, when Caroline, Paige and I rendezvoused in Seattle area with Caroline's natural father, Kurt, and his son Raoul and wife Jenn,  forty-seven years of yearning for this connection came to be real. We spent a glorious weekend getting together over meals and sharing a bit of our lives. All of us are cautious souls and very intuitive, so much of the connection was from our hearts. This connection was so powerful as the genetic bonding that has always been there became real.

In June, travelling to Italy for the international conference in Rome, was a connection with the roots of my love for psychosynthesis, deeper connections with people I actually know and those I only know by cyber connectedness. This conference was a connection with a great vision of supreme synthesis for this planet, and the conference itself was a demonstration of its possibility. A day in Assagioli's archives was a connection with his life and work. The holiday I treated myself to following this, was a connection with the environment which inspired Assagioli's greatness and I was inspired in turn.

I would have to say that a visit to Trevi Fountain in Rome, was more like a symbol of the experience of this past year and the promise claimed within in. The fountain's energy is pure, vibrant, intense gentle refreshment. I experienced the rootedness of continually flowing water from the fountain and its ancient sculptures. As the water flowed in the fountain, I experienced a release of wishing things were different and gratitude for these events of being so deeply connected now.

. I threw in coins over my shoulder with wishes for this next year, promising to return to these wishes during this reflective time of year when I claim the promise for my 68th year.

Now, I am headed for my 50th high school reunion this week. It is one more opportunity to be connected in real time to classmates of yore. But, we are a half century away from high school days, so it is also an opportunity to meet new people who happen to share a common memory of childhood and youth.  I am saying this as a generality, of course, for some have reunited earlier or been connected for the many years since high school. even by marriage.

The reunion is a turning point in many ways.

For this next year, I promise myself to venture off into paradise, both vocationally and personally. This is a year of shedding the cloak of routine relationship and mediocre expectations.

I will to live a healthy lifestyle - a demonstration of being a responsible elder.
I will to see a North American psychosynthesis conference through to its ultimate success - my contribution to responding to what the world needs today.
I will to travel far and wide for the fun of new encounters and celebrate friendships  -expanding my tolerance for bliss all the way to joy itself.
I will to plan a family reunion where my immediate family is all together for the first time ever since grandchildren began to enter the scene - daring to assert the value of such a gathering  as that which we all deserve to experience.
I will to comfortably be who I am and never more what I am expected to be to keep the peace.

If I organize my blog so to publish it in the context of some theme or finish my book about reuniting with Caroline or get trained as a psychosynthesis coach or any of the other myriad of possibilities I have to consider, well, fine and dandy. I feel I have finally ditched the work ethic which kept me going for so many years. I feel I am replacing it by entering the circle of the dance of this life's time. I intend to have the time of my life this year.

Reflections on a year past and claiming promises for a year ahead makes it easy to dance in the moment, even through the highs and lows of daily routine. What has been your greatest moments of the year past? What are you anticipating as worth it all in the coming year?

A Day in the Archives

This is very long. You might want to begin further down where I placed two stars. **

I walked down the hill from Villa la Stella to Casa Assagioli to spend a day in the archives of Roberto Assagioli. It was going to be interesting since I have difficulty seeing writing, let alone typed print.

But, with my new glasses, I was hopeful. I also wanted to go there to soak up the environment that inspired Assagioli and get a sense after his life there in Firenze.

We were 46 people sitting around the room in an oval. We introduced ourselves and where we were from. People were there from North America, all over Europe, and other places as well. 

We were then led in two groups - English and Italian speaker. In the English speaking group there was continual translation in to French as well.

As we began the tour, we stopped at a table with Assagioli's stamps, each choosing one, stamping it onto a paper, and pinning it to our shirts. I chose to just pick one up and stamp it. It was "Silenzio"!

We crossed the courtyard into the basement, and past some untouched archives which had been stored in the attic previously, but moved due to a leak in the roof.The project which brought us here is an ongoing restoration and organization of these files.

We left that building and entered Assagioli's garden. There were unripened grapes hanging, hydrangeas of different colors, a fruit tree or two, and other flora. This garden was bordered by a brick wall and on one side a steep hill rose beyond, covered with olive trees and Italian cypress scattered along the hill's rise.

We then returned to the main building, began the climb to the top floor. First we stopped at the library, noticed the foyer's intricately designed ceiling, and sat in another room with an original ceiling.

Once at the top, we had light refreshments and heard more about the history of Casa Assagioli.  

Funny, the things you remember most. For me, it was the cat door cut from a bedroom door and a bit of a biography on the cat whose name was Freaky.

We descended to the original ground floor for lunch. I sat in the sun alone in the courtyard enjoying eggplant Parmesan and the most delightful zucchini and cheese salad. I had two chats with others out there under the Tuscan sun - about politics, astrology, and Florida travels.

** Finally, we got to spend time with the archives. I found "Social Psychosynthesis". It was a small group of files with hand written notes - some in English and some in Italian.

I was having difficulty reading the hand written scribbles because they were so light and the paper had aged. But, I was into the magic of encountering the archives of a man whose work so changed my life. I thought I read on one, "You belong!"  I was delighted that those words came off the small piece of paper with such clarity.  But, as I looked again, it read, "You belong to at least one group, or you should belong to one, even to many."

Assagioli would collect these small papers of notes and use them to write or prepare lectures. There were lots of references and some quotes. But, there was nothing new to me in this small file. This was an affirmation of the learning I had already accomplished about social psychosynthesis.

I took a good length of time to meditate in Assagioli's office, first on the floor by a window, then in a chair next to his desk.  One of the designated assistants, there to help us locate archives, flitted by three or four times, distracting me, until I finally was in a deep meditative state, oblivious to anything or anybody around me.

  I listened for a message which I had asked to receive as I entered this meditation.  I received a message, loud and clear, "You have not yet reached the deep underlying contradiction to your community's ability to move ahead. Look for signs today." I felt entirely refreshed when I reentered the reality of the office.

I then entered the room that held Assagioli's esoteric research and was drawn to guided meditations which had been typed in English. Browsing through them, I was deeply addressed with awakening to their focus. They were all on becoming a life of service in the world. Yes, they had the esoteric qualities of imaging, the colors of the images having symbolic qualities. This was not new to me.

What deeply addressed me was that each was planned out to be experienced over several months. I noticed tears in my eyes. I was connecting at a very deep lived with my own life experience here - with  my own history as a life of service in the world. I was elated and was really feeling that "I belong" which I first saw in Assagioli's notes on social psychosynthesis.

As I was connecting the two insight,that of belonging and that of service in the world, one of the assistants came by and intruded on my processing. She assumed I needed a break and hurriedly  closed up the file correctly, a file to which I planned to return. She asked me where I got it from and if someone had assisted me in locating it. then, she took it back to that room, leaving me to take a break.

 Needless to say, I had my first sign of the deeper underlying contradiction. I got up and took that break obediently.

When I came back down I asked another assistant if she would take a photo of me next to Assagioli's desk. She didn't feel comfortable with that and said so rather loudly, asking another assistant what she thought. The other assistant, the same one who assisted me in taking a break,  was standing there shaking her head in the negative, with a somewhat "tsk-tsk" attitude about her.

I don't know why I asked her to take that photo. I already had one next to his desk. I took it as another sign of the underlying contradiction, decided I had what I came there for, left, walking back up the hill in tears, nevertheless.

Gleaning the  meaning of the events of that day in Casa Assagioli have been productive, yet inconclusive. 

One clear image I have of where we all need to work is to recover a strong foundation of unconditional positive regard in our collegial relationships. Social synthesis has, at its heart, a trust in the ability of each of us to see through the Mundane into the Divine purpose of our encounters  and interrelationships. Each is responsible for interpreting truth - not projecting one's own characteristics, fears, or dogmas. There is a great diversity of perspective in the unity of a community. Assuming another's relationship to life is not someone else's responsibility.

I am sure I perused the files I need for future reference and am equally certain that I came away from the day with exactly what I needed. While some of it was humiliating - humiliation is good, too. It is a state of being where reality shines.

Every day has, within it, an opportunity for insight. My own intent to soak up the environment which inspired genius in Roberto Assagioli did not go unheeded during this day at Casa Assagioli.

In fact, each time I return in my remembering to this place, I leave with another insight.  Some places are like that. This one is like that for me.

Where are places, which for you, stand as endless inspiration and insight?

Pilgrimage to Assisi

Almost fifty years ago, I became acquainted with the life of St. Francis of Assisi.

The story of him being called to rebuild the church left an image in my head of a small one room stone chapel for me to hold dear for so many years.

The story of him dancing naked in the square, being stoned, and singing out songs of gratitude became a vital sub-personality in my psyche - or a powerful presence on my meditative council, if you prefer. 

The story of his creating an Order of brothers who reached out to be service in the world has been an image for me of healthy community purpose.

When I visited Assisi this summer, it was with a tour bus because I did not want to go alone, although I was the loner in the crowd. There were four who spoke Spanish and English, two who spoke only Italian, two who spoke only Spanish, and me who speaks only English - but fortunately understands Spanish.  The guide translated into the four languages on the bus. When we arrived another guide took over. She translated into English and Italian, while the bus guide translated into Spanish.  Neither of the guides translated into English well, so I was glad I understood Spanish. 

We visited the church where St. Clare attended with her aristocratic family. Inside we viewed the small chapel where Francis received his calling to rebuild the church. 

We visited the stable where Francis was born - interesting to learn that he was also born in a stable.

We visited the church his parents attended and saw where he was imprisoned for taking off his clothes in the square outside of the church, giving the clothes to the poor. It was significant for him to do this  since his father was a mercantile goods merchant. He was disidentifying from his expected role in the community. His mother,  who I suspect understood this, was also imprisoned for defending him.This was not the square where he danced naked.

We moseyed on down the old streets to the cathedral at the top of the hill which was built around the little church that St. Francis rebuilt. Once we got to this little church, I was amazed to find that it wasn't a little stone chapel at all. It was a beautiful Gothic cathedral in and of itself.

 Walls and ceilings were covered with  frescoes of stories, created for a population which basically could not read. One of the smaller altars told a story of St. Francis in heaven with his colleagues. On the left were souls being helped in to heaven. On the right were souls doomed for eternity. There I was - five feet from a Michelangelo creation. I didn't need to go to the Sistine Chapel anymore, because I was in the presence of this, also his creation.  (I couldn't see the frescoes on the ceiling here, so I wouldn't be able to see the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel anyway).

I had pondered going to France to make a pilgrimage to one of the many black Madonnas there, but here I was. There were many fresco black Madonnas right here.  Later I found one in a shop, but couldn't imagine how I'd get it home, so I purchased a decoupage version instead.

The bus took us to St. Mary of the Angels where St. Francis and his Order maintained their center for the duration of his life.  In the center of this cathedral is a small rustic stone chapel. It looked like the chapel I had imagined all these years as the one St. Francis was called to rebuild.  I find myself wondering if I missed something in the translation along the way, or perhaps history has chosen to change the story for the sake of the journey.

I never did make it to the square where St. Francis danced naked. But, we did drive on to Cortona, the town made famous by "Under the Tuscan Sun". There, I sat in an outside pub on the square. there I had a lunch of thinly sliced salamis and a glass of house wine from Umbria, this province where I was. I imagined Frances Mayes,  the author of the book, might have sat here to, reflecting on her own journey to create a new life for herself.

Such a pilgrimage, whatever way it is made, to those places which, are sacred to the traveler, is an adventure into the Soul. 

Where would you like to go for your pilgrimage to the Soul?  In that place, where Soul can create dance, healing can begin.

Grotto Giusti - the Descent into Hell

There are mineral springs on the surface and in caves  in Montecatini Termi in Tuscany, about an hour from Firenze by train.

 Three of us ventured off to sit in the mineral springs and feel its healing in our bodies.

 At the spa we chose, which happened to be the only one open at this time of year, we bathed in the pool, did aqua massage and then each had different massages. Mine was an aryuvedic massage, done by a real master in energy healing.

 I left burning with desire and headed to the grotto.

 I took off all my clothes - again - and donned a heavy white canvas robe, designed expressly for the trek into the grotto.

 Walking slowly down a long slope, I stepped through a door made of strips of plastic, and entered the dark cave. It was lit by dim spotlights placed strategically.

 There are three locations in this grotto, with steam rising from deep cavernous streams, heated by a volcanic source of fire. They are called inferno, purgatory, and hell.

 I wandered around the paths of inferno, breathing in the steam comfortably and feeling myself relaxing even more deeply than from the extremely relaxing massage. As I descended in to purgatory, the steaming streams seemed to be even more deeply cut into the rock laded with stalagmites and stalicites. I stood silently focusing diligently on deep breathing. I was not having much success. In fact, my heart began to beat strongly. Amazingly enough, the beats were strong and steady, unlike their every day state of being where they are weak and irregular.

 I was totally alone here in purgatory. No one else had ventured into the caves. I faced toward hell, estimating how long it would take to get there. On the other side of it, was a place to refresh and cool down.

Here I was, right in the middle of the journey between inferno and hell, which up to this day, I would have considered one and the same. Intending to be strong and transcend this wildly beating heart, which I was beginning to experience as one with the heart beat of the caverns,

 I contemplated the risks and sense of adventure in going on straight to hell. Better judgment got the better of me and I headed back toward inferno and back on up the path through the plastic strips of curtain, and up the slope.

 As cooler, drier air surrounded me, I nevertheless found it difficult to ascend. Half way to the top, I noticed a ledge and immediately sat down on the side of the path. The attendant was almost chanting, 'You will be all right. Breathe deeply, relax...".  He brought me some cold water in a small glass, then brought me more twice again.

 I do have to say, at this point, I did not experience the trek as fearful. Perhaps overwhelming. The canvas cloak was soaked, indicating that there was much more steam in that grotto than I was feeling on my face and hands - yes, and feet.

 When, my heart returned to a somewhat normal-for-me state of being, I ventured on up the rest of the slope, went into the dressing room, removed the soaking cloak, and redressed.

 Not disappointed for not taking the whole journey, exhilarated by what I had seen, heard (which was mostly the beating of my heart), and felt, I began to sum up the blessing the descent had been. I heard and felt my heart beating as normally as a healthy heart would be beating. I was sure that the intensity of the steam in purgatory was not, however, worth the endurance. Nor was I sure that it was other than illusion. I'll never know for sure.

 I do have to say that I am left with wondering what would have been the experience of hell.  But, alas, I guess I will have to wait for another day to go hell!!!!!

Remember a time when the environment, for you, was entirely overwhelming. Describe the experience.

Tuscany: The Heart of Italy

Real life experiences are preferable to guided tours.

This was my opinion, anyway, of my recent trip to Italy.

I am quite certain that I did not express to Wanda, my hostess in Montecatini, how grateful I was that she welcomed me into her home and shared her life with me.

I arrived on a Friday afternoon, stayed two nights, and left on Sunday morning.

Wanda lives with her mother,   Maria Pia, a lovely Italian woman, closer to my age than to Wanda, and in perfect physical shape. I should be so fortunate!

She made dinner of tomatoes and tuna, one of my favorite summer dishes. The tuna did not taste anything like Starkist. It was like a fully cooked ahi tuna and flavored oh, so delicately. There were green beans and cold cuts, including prosciutto. I could have survived on the bread alone. The olive oil is the best I ever had. The red wine was delightful. Even though the food all during the trip to that point was exceptional, I could feel the love and anticipation that went into preparing this meal for a special guest.

On Saturday, after a trip to the coffee bar to taste Wanda's favorite pastry and taking time to make things right with the owner when I needed hot water for my self-supplied totally decaf packet, we drove into Montecatini Alto where Wanda works as a pre-k teacher.

First, we stopped at a church which is over 1000 years old. There she met a former student and his mother. She hugged him and they talked in Italian for a short while. Even though I did not understand, I could feel how at home Wanda felt there.

Next, we visited the farm where the olive oil is made and where she and her mother bought their fresh produce. Three men, each of a different generation, greeted us. Again, I could feel how comfortable Wanda was with them.

We went on to visit her school, empty except for a custodian, now that school was over for a summer break.  Wanda said the building had been a Mussolini post, but that her school room on the other side had not been. The walls were covered with wildly creative products made by students. Once, more I could feel the love Wanda had for these children she got to spend time with. Outside, her colleague, (co-teacher) was driving by. She stopped for a minute and then went on her way.

We went on into the mountains, winding around narrow curvy roads, honking at the edge of each turn and drove to an ancient villa which had been purchased and refurbished by a young family.

 The woman was not able to receive us because she was expecting twins very soon. Her shirt was short, revealing a huge belly and protruding navel.  I remembered being in the same condition and could feel her exhausted state. I wonder now, how the birth process was and would love to hold those little babies.

Finally, we arrived at a quaint restaurant for lunch - eating being my favorite pastime. A shaded outside     area with orange and yellow plaid tablecloths, the place could have been featured as an exclusive place to dine. The owner was the father of one of Wanda's students. He was so very friendly and accommodating even with his limited English. We had wild boar and an absolutely delicious homemade pasta - thin as noodles, but cut into squares. As was the case everywhere, the house wine was absolutely delicious. Then we had mushrooms.. My friend, a chef, has said that you cant go to Tuscany and not have mushrooms. We had a traditional type and fried and took home what we didn't eat. Maria Pia had them for her dinner.
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After lunch, we drove on to another village in the mountains. There we saw where Maria Pia had been born and lived her early years.Wanda related that these were not the happiest of times. We climbed up to the fortress, and to another ancient church build by the Medici family. We passed the home of billionaires, peeking in to see their fancy cars parked everywhere. They looked so out of place in these narrow streets and ancient buildings made of stones. The gardens which grew on the side of the hills, as steep as walls, were elegant. Everywhere and everything was ancient elegance. Back at the small flat, Wanda calls home, I showed the photos we had taken to Maria Pia. I could feel her sadness as well as the gentle memories of her roots.

Sunday morning, we checked the train schedule, and then drove to Wanda's favorite place, an inn in the Chianti region. We arrived at an ancient place, a farm which had been transformed into an exclusive inn.  We talked to the owner as she hung out her third story window. Well, Wanda talked to her, but, again, I felt Wanda's sense of belonging where she was.

We walked along a grassy path on a hill side to a mineral water fed pool overlooking the region below. There were grapevines all around us, as well as fruit trees, including my beloved apricot. We sat by the pool and meditated for awhile. Washing the water over our faces made the cool breeze even more refreshing.

Wanda senses herself as being called at this time to grow and to change her circumstances.

A promise I would claim for Wanda is that she feel the brilliance of her beautiful Spirit, the one she shares with her students and their parents, and I'm sure, like with me, all the people she meets.

Thank you Wanda, and Maria Pia, for trusting me enough to open the doors of your home, and sharing with me, your wonderful life in Tuscany. The gift of olive oil from the farm in Montecatini Alto will be finished far sooner that the memory of a journey into the real heart of Italy. And Thank  you Maria Pia, for the beautiful wallet made in Florence. I promise I will wear it out.

Most of all, thank you for the heart connections we have shared. We shared the pain of trying to communicate. You did a great job. I am sure you are still amazed to be a translator.You translate with your heart. I have felt it. And most of all, by being able to empathize with you, I was able to feel, like you, at home where I was there in Montecatini.

Such encounters with real lives is a precious gift, far surpassing the beholding of the wonders of the world. When has this been true for you?

History and the Class of '62

Red bud blooming at end of May in Crescent City

Mao's Great Famine: The History of China's Most Devastating Catastrophe, 1958-62.

There we were, the class of 1962 of Whitesboro Central School, knee deep in rock'n'roll and the beginnings of folk music.  The civil rights movement was well under way.

 The big news of John F. Kennedy's election was that he was the first catholic president. Little did we know what his legacy would really be. Most of us probably didn't even know who Mao was.

We,  the class of 1962, were born about the time that the attack on Pearl Harbor burst the bubble of American invulnerability and followed shortly thereafter, in the vast span of history, the atomic bomb was dropped on Japan. 

We lived in the dawn of the space age when Sputnik was launched into orbit. Before that,  we were the first to watch TV - Howdy Doody, Dick Clark, Lone Ranger, Perry Como and George Jones, Ed Sullivan, and all other such legends.

We also tasted the first McDonald's hamburgers and fries. However, we did prefer Voss' Dairy (best burgers and ice cream and Rick was in our class) and then there was diner with the juke boxes at the end of the booths.

As we grew up, we experienced radical social changes. We lived the ambiguity of this time warp. Mothers increasingly had to go to work while we watched the very happy Cleaver and Nelson families act out their humorous crises. 

 There were no African Americans  in our school until one black boy and one girl enrolled in our senior year. At the same time, the barriers melted away between  Italians and Polish, as evidenced by  a guy at one end of the hall humorously yelling, "Hey wap wap!", only to then hear, "Hey pollack!" coming from the other direction. It was horrifying to hear, nevertheless. I well remember getting an "F" in speech for having the topic, "Racism in Oneida County!"

We hung out at the plaza, went to beach parties at Hinkley Lake, went skiing in Old Forge, skated at Flag Street playground,  never missed the Firemen's Field Days and carnivals, did the twist with Chubby Checker, swooned over Elvis,  and sneaked into drive-in movies to make out- just mentioning a few as the memories beginning to flood in like a tsunami on the horizon.

Our Senior skip day was a disaster. They were waiting for us with a vengeance. Ah, yes! Detention! My favorite hang out!

Now, I am on the crest of that tsunami which was only the beginning of an era of social upheaval. I am beginning to compare today's world with the world out of which we of the Class of 1962 were born and raised. 

How quickly my imagination shifts from  the tsunami of those radically changing times we lived, to the beauty of the red bud blooming in May in Florida, steeped as I am with the crises of the planet today. 

What else is there to remember?  What's different about today than when you were born and raised - the world into which our grandchildren and great grandchildren are coming in to experience?

Three Eclipses and Kharma

Just had a new moon full solar eclipse on May 20 which included an eclipse of  the black hole.

Today, June 4, 202 there's a full moon eclipse .

Then on June 5-6 there's a Venus eclipse, which happens only once in 100 years or so
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We all indeed are living in radically transformative times and here we are suspended between the new moon solar eclipse and full moon lunar eclipse and the Venus eclipse.

If you are one who is sensitive to these energies, you, as am I, have been experiencing some mighty powerful reflections.

I experience being called to proclaim the end of my own  kharmic albatross, that of experiencing myself as being an outsider. I am drawn to making some decisions to support a sense of belonging where I am and feeling happiness in my relationships.

Already, today, I ran into a few people I know, an unusual occurrence, even for such a small village with one major grocery store. I suppose this was just a coincidence, but nevertheless, the event was auspicious to me.

My niece, her husband, and son, came to visit last weekend. Their presence evoked pure bliss for they are such loving folks. I enjoyed being loved and loving them. My interpretation of the experience of their visit  is also auspicious.

It depends on where Venus is in your chart,as to what has an intensified possibility of happening.

Where it is in my astrological chart suggests that, the interpretation of the Venus eclipse is many new people coming into my life - from now on.

Astrology may or may not be a valid tool in today's world, even though it did lead the 3 Wise Men to the Manger once upon a time, it is nonetheless, does stimulate self-reflection.

 I am going to a conference in Italy where already 500 colleagues are registered. I'm sure I don't know all of them already, but can only imagine the high energy that will be present with so many who share a common purpose in one place.  And I really am looking forward to making some real time connections with names and faces of which I am familiar.

I am reconciled to traveling alone this time, sensing that I will meet new people and have conversations with them as I proceed, mindful of reflections present during this adventuresome journey.

 The sheer presence of these eclipses have inspired me to sense the reality of all the people existing in this community we call Planet Earth. I want to meet them all, problems and promises that they hold in their hearts. That is some challenge for an introvert such as I.

How have you experienced the call to change - maybe end karmic business - at this particular time of year where the energy of these eclipses have provided such an opportunity?

Information Age Update

Annular Eclipse over Hawaii

Since the beginning of 2012, I have had one "opportunity" after another to update electronic equipment.

 First, the lap top screen went blank - able to replace lap top with a larger screen, more gigs, etc. The printer just plain died, so I got one very cheaply that takes 1/2 the ink, scans, and copies, too.

Then my Kindle screen went blank. I opted for Kindle Fire since my touch-screen ipad clone apps were more than a new Kindle Fire.

Then the flip-top cell phone became increasingly more difficult to stay in a hot spot - probably due to the fact I have an obsolete plan. So, I threw caution to the wind and opted for a smart phone - which will cost three times as much a month - but at least I can complete a phone call without having to call back a couple of times - plus keep up with facebook, email, do voice commands, access a GPS, etc. eetc. etc.

I have a really fine camera with telescopic lenses, but it's cumbersome and takes +1nb pix. My  Easyshare decided it doesn't want to record pix to the card any longer, so I now have a new Sony which takes really high quality shots and video recordings and is like 2"x3" x 1/2".

The electric toothbrush wants to hum on its own and the water pick has one attachment left, so I'm opting soon for an updated water pic.

Coffee pot went kafluey, so we pulled out an old one that didn't used to work but does now.

The TVs and the ipod wouldn't dare act up, given that they now know how easily they can be replaced.

Not electronic, but even the glare proof coating on my glasses began to pearlize, occasioning a change in the limited perspective they were allowing!! Getting new lenses only took one hour, instead of the week long wait of past years. A by-product of that change is just that now I can really see again.

All of these occurrences have made me painfully aware of my acquired dependence on electronics and high technology.

  As long as I can see, they all add a richness to communication with the rest of the world. I am grateful for my ability to acquire these gifts of technology.

I can say I can live without them. I can. But, for the time being, why would I do that?

What is your relationship to the gifts of this technological information age we've been experiencing?

Leadership and Me

Jena Guenther and I seriously planning for the 2013 Conference. She was the inspiration for and was the first cochair of the organization  of which I am the current cochair.

A dialogue on different perspectives on the same reality is healthy if there is to be a synthesis of the many disciplines.  The Real Leadership Lessons of Steve Jobs (14 lessons), in April 2012 issue of Harvard Business Review by Walter Isaacson lists Steve Jobs' take on what it takes to be a leader. 

Steve Jobs' asserts that a good leader will...

1) Focus,

 2) Simplify, 

3) Take Responsibility End-to-End,

 4) When Behind, Leapfrog,

 5) Put Products Before Profits,

 6) Don't Be a Slave to Focus Groups,

 7) Bend Reality,

 8) Impute,

 9) Push for Perfection,

 10) Tolerate Only "A" Players,

 11) Engage Face-to-Face, 

12) Know Both the Big Picture and Details,

 13) Combine the Humanities with the Sciences,

 14) Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish.

Steve Jobs was determined to become very rich while also getting a breakthrough innovation out to the world. This list clearly shows that he loved what he was doing, knowing it was good for the world.

I would have preferred to not be the leader of an organization which is about what the world needs most- or for any other reason. Yet, I find myself in that position and doing a good job at it as well - for the moment anyway.

Learning Steve Jobs take on leadership, occasioned a reflection for me on what I believe it takes to be a good leader. This is my take on effective leadership today:

1). Facilitates the creation of, holds, and protects the consensus,

2) Operates as if a Higher Self is in charge of the community's growth,

3) Inspires participation, celebrating effort and accomplishment,

4) Takes responsibility  in consideration of the whole picture and what is needed really needed, and

5) Focuses on prioritizing goals into a timeline, monitoring and supporting implementation.

I have also learned quickly that in order to be sustained as a leader, it is necessary to say "Yes" to the unique contribution of others, expecting that each of us is intending our highest good, and that we all are regularly falling short of our own performance expectations.  This I would suggest is the most important leadership lesson of all.

If that isn't the final lesson, then the final lesson is that laughter released in abundance is what keeps us all going strong - that with some hearty singing and entering the round dance of life!

What's your take on good leadership today?

Sign post at Songaia Community in Bothell, WA

Aging and Looking Ahead

I am not certain that focusing on "living in the moment" is where it's at for me right now.  I find it rather comfortable to be present in the here and now and do so even when I am not spending time being mindfully aware of this reality.

I have recently become aware of birthdays of people in their 90's who are physically fit, alert, and leading purposeful lives.

A friend of mine, one I have known since I was a child, just turned 80. She is among those healthy, engaged people. She has some age related deterioration physically and mentally, broke her hip recently, and maintains a strict diet to keep her digestive system from interfering with her active life style.

I have been telling myself the story that I will probably not be around much longer, so it would be in my best interests to live in the moment, fully and with great fun.

However, what if I am going to maintain my present health and get to live, given some limitations, for a long time.

Perhaps it behooves me to consider creating a plan for the next 20 years and live each day with that plan in mind.

The big question, then, becomes, "What is worth taking twenty years to move toward at this time of life?"

Reflecting on the Gathering of the Clan

Since our great gathering of the clan in Seattle in December, and a meeting of grandson with grandfather later in the month, there has been a great pause in communication. I suppose this is a natural phenomenon as all stakeholders need time to relish the memory and process this surreal event in which we all participated.

I am accustomed to being around people who are expressive. I am expressive in writing, but in person, I am very guarded. The reason for this, I have decided is that when I have been expressive, it is rarely shared, unless with people who know me well.

There were moments during the gathering of our clan when I wanted to burst with joy and other times when I wanted to have a conversation. I sensed everyone was experiencing joy, but conversation remained superficial

 On one of our evenings together, I was just beginning to relax with this group. One remark did me in with its exclusionary tone.

But, that was my problem. We were all finding our ways into and around this drama of bonding. My problem was in not being able to other than take it personally at the time.

I am experiencing a sense that everyone present has returned to some semblance of a normal life and is getting on with our lives, remembering our gathering as significant, yet no longer overwhelming.

All of us have grown up in a world where feelings are supposed to be discounted, with no place in inter-relationships. This is a world in which the mark of a mature adult is one who doesn't show or maybe even feel feelings.

Fortunately the world is changing. Emotions are being acknowledged, expressed, processed, shared.

When I was young, I lost my temper when I was angry. I soon learned that it changed nothing and I didn't like who I was as a result. So, I adapted a "habit" of ignoring that which angered me. My favorite saying was from Aunt Bea who sat on my interior council ever reminding me that "God meant something good to come out of everything.".

This may be true of course, but there are times when it is good to get angry - good because anger is the feeling being experienced.   Why stuff it down?

For too many years - a half of a century in fact - I stuffed it down along with deep regret. Ignoring real feelings, repressing them, leaving them lie dormant, effected and affected every decision I made. I only share this much because it is relevant as I reflect on the gathering of this clan.

I came close to almost ignoring my feelings as they came up during the gathering, falling into the old pattern. I see myself almost as a zombie during that time. When the  tears of anger welled up, I could no longer hold them back.  Tears gushed all through the night. In the morning, I was finished. What I had been experiencing through the night was over and I was ready to feel good.

Nothing much had changed in the group dynamics, but I was feeling good, and I was authentically feeling. I am assuming that the process was as it was and that journey to being able to feel no matter what the response, was an almost fifty year breakthrough for me.

I don't have to stuff anything down anymore. Doors are opened wide. Connections have been made. Everyone knows each other and where to find each other now.

I have a feeling of being alone, but that is because I am alone really -not to be confused with the opposite of Oneness which I am also feeling.

I also have a feeling of completion because what I wanted most came to pass and is now a new take on the past.

I affirm the totality of  events and their accompanying feelings of this past two years: the reunion with my daughter, Caroline; meeting her children, Paige and Justin; attending the wedding of my first granddaughter, Kathleen, whose life I was not aware of before this;  meeting Caroline's parents, Paula and James; spending time with both Paige and Justin; Justin spending time with my sons, Rob, Russ, and Randy and grandson. Wilder; shopping and talking on the phone and pix on facebook and in emails; and the gathering of the clan in Seattle where Caroline met her natural father, Kurt, and his son. Raoul, and son's wife, Jenn; to learn of Kurt's daughter and passing of his wife.

 It is wonderful to learn what they are doing from time to time since then and to hear of possible connecting in the future.

In my heart, there is still a longing to be together, but this habitual pattern will fade away as the fullness of these past years slowly replaces that with a peaceful dance.

Systems and Such

The bush is full of blooms. Focusing on one can illuminate the beauty of the whole bush full of blooms. So it is with focusing a group's energy on one purpose and how to maintain a purposeful environment.

I have been pondering the underlying causes of a non-functioning system. I have asked myself why it stays in existence. Surely the purpose is beyond power games, passive resistant manipulation,  saying one thing and doing another - or not doing at all, finding fault with someone who is taking the lead, or collectively yielding to micromanagement  - which I would suggest is the ultimate form of a non-functioning system.

Non-functioning may be the wrong term if it means that the system is just sitting there doing nothing. I would suggest that its meaning is neither that there is no apparent function for its existence nor all that gets done is irrelevant.

I would suggest that a non-functioning system is lacking in the inspirational source that was at its inception and that the solution is not to close shop, but rather to change so to be an inspiring presence.

Organizations of which I have been a part, have suffered this dilemma of sinking into a non-functioning pit of quick sand. None  the least of which is public education.

Twenty years in public education and I never understood the function of making kids come to school every day, sit behind desks, read, write, listen, and take a test.
 
For the entire twenty years, I never found a way to fit into the groove expected of me. Over the course of those twenty years, I did find ways to facilitate change where I was. My internal experience was one of continually being overwhelmed with the whole systems transformation needed in public education.

The thing is, there wasn't a core of people in each district in the - well,-  in the world to change the whole system of education.  The hundreds of demonstration schools, the thousands of charter schools, the umpteen number of home schooling groups, are all "spits in the park" compared to what is needed.

Part of all that movement in the direction of change is that by nature they are individual, unconnected efforts. Frithy frothy marshmallows of billow bubbles proclamations of hope accompanied with great applause for their efforts  is not going to make it happen either.

It will happen when the occasion of focus brings this movement together to move ahead as a very public demonstration of systems transformation.

The same is true at the heart of every dynamic, massively spread out as is public education, or a small leadership core of a not-for-profit.

Where do you see a need for a system in need for a whole transformation?  What will it take?

Destination: Today

Didn't get perrmission to use this, nor do I know where it originated, but isn't it awesome?

This month, I participated in a series of teleconference workshops. they were a pioneering adventure, one which I wasn't about to miss.

The final of five workshops was about contemplation time in a busy world.  The leader had studies with Thich Nat Hanh, the Vietnamese Buddhist,  since the 1980's and shared how she practices. One of t he questions she asked us to share in pairs was something like, "What keeps us from slowing down and taking time?"

Even though I do have a rich solitary life, the question was still relevant.

May answer:  I have an ailing heart and have much I would like to get done before I go.

Her response was, "You'll never get it all done.". She said this not only once but four times.

Needless to say, I experienced the offense, even though I knew this was true.

This event reminded me of the famous turning point lines in Requiem for A Heavyweight, where Ma says, "Where do you want it? Here or in the alley?"

I really don't want to answer this one more time in my life.  Nevertheless, it is a question that each of us are asked in some form or other almost daily if not more often.

I prefer here and today, now, thank you. this is all I have and it definitely is worth living with eyes open wide, in response to the really real.

Of course, in the movie, the line was about doing what Ma wanted or getting shot. So Ma got her way.
So, I do what Ma wants, metaphorically speaking.

How about you?  Where do you want it? Here or in the alley?

The Joy of Writing

I write.

I write this blog and I am writing a book.

I get into a place of passion and writing is a pure joy as I get lost in the wonder of it all.

Recently, I asked an editor friend for feedback on the nature of the content and style of the book I am writing. The response was a whole list of grammatical errors from commas to syntax.

I was angry and frustrated. I felt demeaned. I cried and swore I would give up writing altogether. It wasn't just this event. This was the end of my patience with  several attempts at feedback.

Emotions had their way for awhile until volition stepped in and I decided to meditate.

I sat quietly, got comfortable, relaxed, and focused on breathing in and breathing out.

First, I listened to myself hash it over and over, while I gently encouraged the rampage to slow down and eventually stop. Then I reflected on exactly what had gone down to get me into this state - first I did this, then that happened, then........ until I had disidentified from my own experience and could see it as it had occurred without judgment.

Secondly, I listened and watched this outrage which had consumed me. I asked, "Who is this raging on like this?" As the energy personified, I listened and watched as an "aha" emerged and a light revealed its presence in all its glory. As the ranting eased, the personified energy acknowledged,  I watched it slowly transform back into writer energy.

With that, finally, I returned to writing the book. I put on some music, and followed my fingers on the keyboard into that creative source. The images flowed onto the page as I let go of volition and wrote spontaneously with wild abandon again.

I never cease to be amazed at the flow of the creative process. I am slowly learning to adjust to others' not rising up to meet my expectations and to just look elsewhere if feedback is really an important interlude to the writing process. And when I need a break to process,to  just take one.

What has been your experience with the creative process?

Oombulgurri One More Time

"Main Street" and about the only street in Oombulgurri, Western Australia

Recently,  I found this old picture of Oombulgurri Human Development Project's main drag. It must have been taken in the early '70s. It got me wondering about how Oombulgurri is faring today.

While we were there in the late 70's, diamonds were discovered in the Kimberley's and the government was concerned that we would interfere with their negotiations with the Aboriginal people regarding ownership and rights to the profits from diamond mining on Aboriginal sacred land.

I'm sure I could ask and find out the outcome, but I'm also sure the people's rights did not get honored.  

The government sure made it impossible for us to stay in the community. Therefore, we backed on out of there to focus our work in another community, near Sydney, named Murrin Bridge.

An important part of the history of the Institute of Cultural Affairs working with Aboriginal people in Australia is that they had just recently acquired status as human beings. True dinkum!!! All had lived on mission stations for a couple-three generations and the ways to survive and thrive on the land were not being transferred to the next generations, rendering the people totally codependent - like farm animals - on" gudia" (white people) to care for them.

Left on their own, they totally collapsed as a culture and as a people. But, the culture that ran in their bones, through their hearts, and into a cry for sanctuary, was alive and well.  This was true everywhere in Australia. A demonstration community of possibility was our response.

My concern is more for the history which has walked this lane, as well as the possibility of a story of continuing unfolding development. As themodified cliche goes, if these old boab trees could dance the story, what would the corroboree reveal.

There have been many books written  - stories told - since the  1970's. They have been written by college educated authors of Aboriginal heritage. That in and of itself tells a huge story of how time has healed the atrocious wounds of an ancient culture.

Still, I look at this photo and I wonder how Oombulgurri is faring. How is Olive, Elaine, Sheila, my narlagu  (same name) Judy, and all the other wonderful people - revolutionary pioneers in their life's time - whose names have slipped into the unreachable places of collective memory.

How are they faring? What has been their destiny? And you? How are you faring? What's been your destiny?

Porch Time Chats

I have created a new blog. I hope you will come see it and participate in a porch time chat now and then. The site is  PORCH TIME CHATS.
Come on over and set a spell.  The porch is always lovely.

Another Oombulgurri, Australia Story

Elaine was one of two chosen to go to a Human Development Training Institute in India.Tthis was a momentous occasion since neither had been out of the Kimberleys, let alone on a plane.  I gave Elaine my best dress to wear and all of us women gave her enough to wear in style (so to speak).  Elaine was married and her husband was very supportive of her going on this trip. It had not really sunk in to him that she was taking a huge step on her journey, one which he hadn't even dreamed of ever doing hmself.

Elaine and the other two returned from the training with a new glow about them. Elaine was eager to share everything, including the fact that there was another woman there from the area of the ancient part of southern India who was a mirror image of herself, the strange and delicious foods she tasted, the plane ride, the new things she learned about community development, and on and on.

She had washed all her new clothes when she returned and hung them on her line to dry. She took them off the line and folded them neatly, placing them in a corner of her hut. After that was done, she told me that her husband was very angry with her and she didn't know what to do.

I immediately empathized from my own experiences of attempting to come into my own and laughed out loud. Elaine was, understandably,  really upset at my response.  I apologized and took her hands and looked into her eyes. 

"I understand, Elaine, and I will work with you to keep you safe."  I didn't have a clue how to help, not having figured out how to keep out of harms way myself.

We agreed that she would pay some special attention to his needs and hold off on the telling the story of her journey until he appropriated the transformation that had occurred in their relationship.

But, yes, he did beat her and ruin her new clothes, burning them in the pit. I attempted to be there for her, but she was angry at me and every one of us who had sent her on this wondrous journey and then did nothing to protect her when she returned.

She had no idea that she would encounter this domestic horror. I had experienced similar and was so caught up in my own demise, conditioned as I had become to it, I did not recognize the universal characteristics of what happens when women begin to leave their subservient status to come into their own expression of being.

Elaine sunk back into the person she used to be, totally avoiding her rightful claim to matriarchal status of an ancient culture, the secret of that global experience hidden in her heart.

How easy it is for women everywhere to fall into the old ways of relating to men just to keep the peace, one of our natural gifts. How important it is for us to become mindfully aware of our personal callings to transform and come into our own.  At least today, men know they have a part to play in this transformation.

Elaine's experience was well over 30 years ago, but how far have women really come? 

In the Yard

My l yard is 76'x100' in block 1 lot 12 of the city. At one time, where my 1400 sqf house was built, once stood the Orange Inn.  Originally a lake front cracker shack of a fish camp, it  was expanded into an upscale fish camp and dining hall annex. I don't own the whole of the original land, only a remnant of days of yore when when it also was surrounded by orange groves.  this old section of town rests between two lakes, essentially rendering this place as an elevated area of Florida swampland.

My yard has many stories to be told of the goings on during the past three or four centuries. Most of the stories will go untold, but I'd like to share with you some goings on these days in my yard.

Before I built my home here, I imagined conquistadors traveling through her on their way to discovering the original fountain of youth down the road a piece. There are no traces of such activity, only an occasional arrow head, empty bottle, or plate shard from the inn.

On my small remnant of the Orange Inn, I have planted key lime, lime, fig, guava, satsuma orange, red grapefruit, pomelo, avocado, banana, blueberry, a juice orange with three types of oranges on it, kumquat, rosemary, gardenia, night jasmine, jasmine, plumbago, milkweed, forsythia, rose, wisteria, azalea, poinsettia, begonia, bougainvillea, eucalyptus, and some types of aloe and palm. In addition there are other assorted other wild flowers, ferns, and some bushes and flowers which began in pots as gifts.

Dick plants a 15'x25' garden a couple three times a year along with  many varieties of peppers and tomatoes in pots. And there's still plenty of lawn space.

Wild life also comes calling - racoons, possums, snakes, squirrels, ants, bees, mosquitoes, love bugs, wasps, spiders and several types of butterflies.  But, what has been the most mesmerizing is watching birds nest in the fruit trees.  Presently building nests are blue jays and cardinals. We are waiting for the hummingbirds to return. Lately, there seems to be trees full of birds - especially robins and starlings -- there one day and gone the next. The usual annual parade of peacocks and sand cranes haven't been around for awhile. Gulls and grey heron hang around at the lake's edge. I also am beginning to realize that we haven't seen a red fox or panther for several years. Alligators, for the  most part stay in the lake.

Everyone seems to be building fences these days, but the animals don't seem to know what fences are for, except to rest on occasionally. What a great gift to be watching plants grow and bloom and die, too, and observing birds and animals going about their business of inhabiting in a safe haven.

It is remarkable to reflect that this small space, surrounded by ongoing development, increased vehicle traffic, and noisy boats and motorcycles and aging air conditioners, that nature is sustainable.

But it is.  Such a wonderful metaphor for a thriving community! so much yet to learn from nature! Tell me about your environment. I'd love to have such an image to hold dear.